Be you, focus, and empower women: a lot harder said than done. I am the stereotypical petty/ passive aggressive person, and when you're my friend, I adore you, encourage you, support you; but when you're not, you get this fire demon from hell. For the past two years, I've been trying to work on that. I've been trying to be more understanding of my fellow women, putting myself in their "heels." I like to think I've been doing better, but also I realized by taking this more "understanding" approach, I just don't have time for bullshit anymore. I find myself more and more saying: "I understand you, but I've moved past this friendship." I'd rather remove myself from a situation altogether than understand, linger, hope, get upset, and/or prove a point. I'm not sure if it sounds cold, stubborn, or more immature, but I think it's one of the most mature things I've done of late: just letting go.
In this world, you can either be a Cordelia or you can be a Buffy, be a Buffy.
Before I continue, I have a great group of girlfriends, local and out-of-state, but I have had some experiences with women who have truly let me down: friends, co-workers, even my own mother. Women, I find, are not nice to one another; we're in this constant competition with each other, and I have no clue what we're competing for. I'll say it, I have trust issues with women. I've been burned, and I've done the burning. There's some therapist out there drooling right now to discuss my mommy issues.
What I am trying to do is be more proactive. To find female business owners, and support them. To reach out to that lonely girl at the bar and welcome her to my group. To be a better role model for the next generation. It's one of the reasons why I became a big sister with Big Brother Big Sister. Blogging has also helped with this, I get to meet and talk with inspiring women daily and learn about their lives and what they're all going through.
It's why when founder Isabella Brando of Alleb Asor contacted me to partner with her, I jumped on board immediately. Alleb Asor is clothing for empowered women: more than just clothing, a company contributing to increasing the confidence and consistency of female leaders, with apparel that helps them to improve their professional imprint. On set, I got to meet Isabella, her awesome photographer Lisa Rodrigues, and food blogger Dolly of Dolly's Whole Life. This was a girl-power weekend. We all shared our journeys and realized, the best way to achieve in life is to support one another, not step all over each other. There's a meme out there "Real Queens fix each other's crowns" and I've never read something truer. Also, Karma is a straight up bitch, I've met her, so get fixin' ladies.